What to Do When You Can’t Keep It Together at Work or Home: How High Achievers Can Regain Balance, Confidence, and Peace of Mind

markallsman5
Oct 22
3 min read

You’ve been doing your best. You’ve always been a high achiever and a strong performer at work. You go the extra mile, staying late, doing whatever it takes to make sure things get done right.

You do your best at home too. But your spouse isn’t always happy, you work late, you’re not around as much as they’d like. You both know you love each other, but it’s not perfect.

Lately though, you haven’t been “killing it” like usual. Work isn’t clicking, and home feels even harder. It’s tough to sleep, to wind down, and your mind keeps racing from one project to the next.

Your spouse says you seem more distant than usual. You’ve tried self-help books, meditation, deep breathing, but nothing is really working. You’re confused, exhausted, and wondering what’s going on.

When High Achievement Starts Feeling Heavy

If this sounds like you, these are the exact kinds of people I specialize in helping.

It’s hard when you’ve always been the one who can “figure it out”, the one who can handle anything, and suddenly, nothing seems to be working. Admitting that you might need therapy can feel vulnerable. But even the most capable people need help sometimes. Think about your biggest professional projects, you probably didn’t do them alone. You had guidance, collaboration, or at least someone who helped things move forward. That’s what therapy can be, expert guidance for the parts of your life that feel stuck.

Why Your Old Coping Strategies Aren’t Working Anymore

When you’ve relied on grit and drive your whole life, slowing down to look inward can feel unnatural. But often, what’s blocking you isn’t laziness or lack of discipline, it’s deeper emotional pain or exhaustion that your mind and body are trying to manage. A skilled therapist can help you uncover why things feel off and resolve them from the inside out, not just manage symptoms, but heal the root. That’s what I specialize in: helping high achievers understand what’s happening beneath the surface so they can move forward with peace, confidence, and clarity, efficiently and effectively.

Therapies That Work: EMDR, EMDR Intensives, and SSP

I use research-supported methods that help people heal deeply and quickly.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)

Anxiety and depression are often linked to some sort of traumatic event. So I use EMDR, one of the most well-researched therapies for addressing trauma to resolve anxiety and depression symptoms. EMDR helps your conscious and subconscious mind communicate more effectively so you can find relief through resolving trauma.

Learn more about EMDR here.

EMDR Intensives

For those who want to make faster progress, EMDR Intensives offer a focused format where we can accomplish six months of therapy in just three days.

Explore EMDR Intensives here.

SSP (Safe and Sound Protocol)

This approach helps your nervous system shift out of survival mode, fight, flight, or freeze, and into a calm, steady state of peace.

Learn more about SSP here.

Each of these methods is backed by strong research and helps clients make meaningful progress in less time.

Therapy That Helps You Feel Like Yourself Again

If you’re feeling stuck or worn down, please reach out. You don’t have to keep pushing through alone. I can help you find the calm, clarity, and energy you’ve been missing, in an efficient and thorough way.